The 6 F’s of IFS

The 8 F’s of IFS refer to the steps we can take to identify and get to know our protective parts in the hope that by doing so we can un-blend from those parts facilitating a deeper connection to the authentic “Self” part. From my experience of working with my Anorexic Part, ‘Fleshing Out’ and “BeFriending” were key to the success in being able to reassure that part that I no longer needed her protection. The 6 F’s are:

  1. Find

  2. Focus

  3. Flesh Out

  4. Feel

  5. BeFriend

  6. Fear

Green oval with the text "The 6 F's" in large light green letters and a small yellow graphic of children holding hands in a circle.
Green slide with black text titled 'Find,' providing guidance on identifying topics and parts to focus on for engagement, including questions about needs, exploration, parts, and noticing.
A green background with white text titled 'Focus'. The content provides instructions on how to direct attention inward to identify parts, enhancing awareness and connection. It encourages gathering insights about roles, emotional states, and behaviors and includes reflective questions like 'Can you bring your attention to this part?' and 'How do you experience its presence?'
Instructions on feeling and self-awareness, including assessing presence of Self, using grounding techniques, and reflecting on emotional and inner peace responses.
Green background with white text titled "Flesh Out" and bullet points emphasizing understanding, exploring characteristics, and asking introspective questions about one's core self.
Text on a green background with decorative borders discussing the concept of being a 'Bfriend'. It emphasizes establishing a supportive relationship between the Self and the Part, encouraging trust and understanding, and includes questions for self-reflection about the Part's intent, awareness, age, and history.
Green presentation slide with the title 'Fear' and bulleted text about exploring underlying fears, emotional burdens, and triggers related to fear.
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